Grooms Speech – What you should say

A grooms speech is a speech that will be remembered by the bride, by those who are attending the wedding, and by the family and friends who watch the wedding video for years to come.



As a result it is crucial that the speech is properly prepared and delivered. Whilst wedding etiquette and protocol has changed over the years, the need to mention thank and address appropriate family and friends in the speech still remains.


People like to be thanked and have their name mentioned in public, and they get equally offended if they are not mentioned. Which is why it is crucial that in the grooms speech includes the appropriate gratitude’s.


The outline described below provides a structure and flow that you can utilise when preparing your grooms speech.


Firstly, when the MC introduces you mention that you are speaking on behalf of yourself and your wife. This is often utilised as an opportunity to get a few laughs with a comment like “this is the last time I can speak without being interrupted…”.  An early laugh can help settle any nerves you have and make a connection with your audience. During your introduction you should also thank everyone for attending your special day.


After your introduction you should thank your brides parents for their kind words said the in the father of the bride speech, and for any financial contribution they have made to the day. At this point if others have made a financial contribution they should also be mentioned.


Following this the brides parents should be complemented for the outstanding job they have done bringing up their daughter.  This is an opportunity for you to share one or two stories about your bride to illustrate they points you are making. Using stories will endear you to your audience, as they will, in most cases, recall the events you are describing and have their own memories that will be triggered as well.


It goes without saying that if the stories are humorous they will be more effective and enjoyable to everyone in the room. Please ensure that the stories will show the key people in a positive light.


After complementing the brides’ family you can now turn your attention to your family. Thank your parents for the outstanding work they have done to bring up such a wonderful son. Again this is a perfect opportunity to share some funny stories that highlight your parents from your childhood.


It is likely that these stories will not show you in the best light. This is OK; your audience will reward your self-depreciating humour with laughter and enjoyment.



There is one group left to mention in your speech. The people sat at the bridal table.  Thank the best man and maid of honour, complimenting her on how good she and the rest of the bridesmaids look.  The groomsmen and bridesmaids should be thanked for the help leading up to the wedding.


To conclude your speech you should take a few moments to compliment your new wife and make her feel extra special before proposing a toast to the bridesmaids and groomsmen.


Following this simple structure you can prepare and deliver an enjoyable grooms speech that will be remembered fondly by everyone associated with your wedding for years to come.


Mark Kyte
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